3 People in a Relationship with The Mother-In-Law
The Couple & the Mother-In-Law
3 People in a Relationship
Jake & Jenny are married and every time Jenny’s Mom comes to visit they fight. Jenny wants to do everything with her Mom and Jake feels like he doesn’t have a say in what’s happening or Jenny even cares how he’s feeling.
When Jake and Jenny started in the bootcamp they were really mad at each other. Jenny felt like Jake was unreasonable and unfair about his feelings during her Mom’s visits. Jake felt like Jenny was inconsiderate of his feelings and was very resentful.
The bootcamp program has individual workbooks for both parities to complete. As Jenny worked through her assignments she identified how much she always has enjoyed spending time with her Mom. The past few years time hasn’t allowed her to be as close with her and she was trying to cherish every minute of her Mom’s visits. Jenny tried to do things Jake liked to do too but he was always so aggravated with whatever they did.
Jake likes his Mother-In-Law but can’t stand the two of them together. “They would make the plans and talked about those plans all day long. UGH! It’s a nightmare” as he describes it. While Jake was working on his workbook, he found that he had moved away from doing things he liked to do such as golf, pickleball, lifting and woodworking. Jake also realized he didn’t do much with his guy friends anymore so he planned some of those outing when his Mother-In-Law came to visit.
Jake’s perspective about Jenny’s Mom’s visit changed. In fact, he actually looks forward to her visiting because it gives him an opportunity to do what he wants. He now feels free to have his time to do what he wants to do. Before the Bootcamp Jake and Jenny tried to do everything together. Through our weekly sessions they came to grips with the idea that it’s healthy to do things separately, from time to time, to grow.
Testimonial:
“We were so nervous about paying the money for this bootcamp. Our fights were getting worse and lasting longer so we decided to take “the leap of faith”. The program is well worth it! Not only did it help us with our “Mom” problem it strengthen our relationship in so many ways. We still love to be with each other but love our alone time too! Thank you Cynthia & Bill.”
